DIARIO - 6. Notes from the book. Characteristics of abusive parents

Philadelphia, 26 de Septiembre de 2007

Often described as being:

    - Immature

    - Dependent

    - Impulsive

    - Self-centered

    - Rigid

    - Rejecting

• They tend to lack nurturing and coping skills and have a relatively low frustration tolerance.
• They are often socially isolated and distrustful of their neighbors.
• Often they have been abused themselves and have a poor relationship with their own parents and spouse.
• Parents have a history of poor relationships with their own parents.
• They werw abused as children.
• The family is isolated.
• Little or no interest is shown in the child's treatment.
• Tend to have one or more of these attitudes about children and the parenting process:
• Have high expectations of the children that are not consistent with the child's developmental capabilities.
• Have been abused themselves.
• Expect the child to be a caretaker to the parent.
• Are more centered on themselves than on the child. Have an orientation directed more toward their own satisfaction than the satisfaction of the child.
• Immaturity, low self esteem, difficulty in seeking and finding pleasure and satisfaction in the adult world, social isolation, serious lack of ability to be empathetic in relationship to the child.